The Modern Baby Shower
December 14th, 2010
The image of the traditional baby shower is firmly etched in all of our minds. It has something of the feeling of a late afternoon tea, which it should as that is the tradition it grew out of. A flock of women gather in the hostess’s home for a day party that consists of games, refreshments, and indispensable gifts for the new baby and then disperse after two hours. Gifts were color-coded: blue for boys, pink for girls. Advice and war stories were handed out indiscriminately. It was a woman’s bonding ritual, but over the years, the ritual has changed. Now the modern baby shower bears little resemblance to this event.
• Host—Traditionally, the host of a baby shower would have been a friend of the mother to be. She certainly wouldn’t be a family member. Modern showers are thrown by anyone who wishes to plan and organize the event. Sometimes they are even thrown by a group of people who split costs as well as duties. Responsibilities of the host include putting together a guest list, planning the menu and planning baby shower games and activities.
• Timing—Traditionally, a baby shower is held six to eight weeks before the due date. This is to ensure that the mother to be is still mobile and comfortable enough to enjoy the shower. It also means that gifts are given before they are needed, allowing the new parents to set their nursery in order ahead of time. Modern showers may also be held after the new baby’s arrival though. This allows guests to visit with the baby and it allows them to choose gifts that will be specifically useful to the new family’s needs.
• Venue—Traditionally, a baby shower belonged in the home. Modern showers are held anywhere you might choose to go on a social occasion. This includes country clubs, restaurants, and even spas.
• Guests—Traditionally a baby shower was the province of women. Now, coed showers and showers that include activities for children are becoming more and more common. This allows the whole family to join in the celebration.